How do you know who the right person is for you? The one that will stand by you through thick and thin, sickness and health, for richer and poorer. It’s one of the most difficult processes these days.
The ease with which people discard each other is distressing to me. Married today and literally divorced tomorrow. Or simply choosing to live with someone for years. Of course I believe that once you have made that choice, to live together, you are married. Not by law but by faith.
My ancestors did not have the luxury of going to church weekly. Sometimes it would take months for the preacher to reach them. For them writing their names in the family Bible was all that were needed to be considered married.
And then there is the circus that is today’s weddings. It costs the same as buying a new car, but last only a few hours at most.
That is why originally I wanted to elope, but in the end chose to invite family only. Marriage is not supposed to leave your parents broke or up to their necks in debt. And it’s not about all the gifts you could get. And it’s not about showing off… It’s about a commitment to another person that is meant to last a lifetime.
This is why I left the choice to YHWH.
One day, after another boyfriend broke up with me, I sat down with my Bible, a pen and my golden notebook. I started out as a mess confessing my sins and then moved on to evaluating my whole life. All the relationships I’ve had. All the experiences… I then wrote down a list of all the things I thought I wanted in a husband. If it felt wrong to write it I erased it. The list was long!
I asked for specific things like:
* he must be a Christian
* he must have blonde hair and blue eyes
* he must have laugh lines around the eyes
* he must have scars… For reasons
* he must have the same height as me and not mind that I’m talker than him when I wear high heels
* his personality must be stronger than mine
* he must force me to have a strong personality
* his IQ must be higher than mine!
* he must not drive a Ford… Seriously!
* he had to have two serious relationships before me
* he must give me flowers, twice. It must be something new to him. Firsts he had to give me a mix that he put together himself with no red carnations in it and then tulips (red, orange or pink)
There were more but you get the idea. I felt at peace. I asked Him how long it would take and He gave me this scripture from Esther:
So within a year. Right I could wait. Well 1 September that year I met him and 3 weeks later we were engaged. Its been 18 years and I still love him more every day.
I know there are many such stories out there. God bless you for trusting in Him.